Common Tactics of Control in Domestic Violence Cases

Domestic violence often involves allegations of control. An abuser tries to control a victim through various forms of manipulation, threats, and abuse. Domestic violence is a serious issue that deserves attention, and victims need and deserve help.

However, some allegations of control and domestic violence are false. A person may use criminal allegations to punish a person, seek revenge, or gain control over that person. The San Diego domestic violence lawyers of Blair Defense Criminal Lawyers fight to defend our clients against allegations of domestic violence. 

With more than a decade of experience handling thousands of criminal cases, our founding attorney has the skills, knowledge, and expertise to handle your case. As a top-rated trial attorney in San Diego and one of California’s top defense attorneys, he is a respected and successful criminal defense lawyer. 

Call (619) 357-4977 to contact our law office in San Diego, CA, to schedule your free consultation with an experienced domestic violence defense attorney. 

How Blair Defense Criminal Lawyers Helps You With Domestic Violence Charges 

How Blair Defense Criminal Lawyers Helps You With Domestic Violence Charges

It is frightening to face criminal charges in San Diego, California. A criminal conviction can change your life forever in ways that you have not begun to imagine. However, you do not need to go through this alone. 

At Blair Defense Criminal Lawyers, we are ready to stand with you to fight for your innocence. Our founding lawyer has a perfect 10.0 rating on Avvo and has been recognized by the National Trial Lawyers and Super Lawyers. As a result, you can trust that you have a legal advocate with a proven track record of successfully defending criminal defendants. 

When you hire our San Diego criminal defense attorneys, you can expect our legal team to:

  • Begin an independent investigation into the domestic violence charges against you
  • Interview witnesses and review evidence from the prosecutor’s office
  • Gather evidence to build a strong defense strategy
  • Work with you to develop a timeline of the allegations and identify potential weaknesses in the alleged victim’s statements
  • Provide a vigorous defense in court, if necessary
  • Aggressively negotiate terms for a plea deal if going to court is not in your best interest

We invest time and resources in every case we accept. Our lawyers understand that this is your life at stake. Therefore, we are aggressive, diligent, and passionate about your defense.

Call us to schedule a free case evaluation with a San Diego domestic violence lawyer. Please do not wait to reach out to us. Unfortunately, time is not on your side.

What Types of Tactics Do People Use To Control Someone in a San Diego Domestic Violence Situation?

An abuser knows their victim intimately. Therefore, they understand the best way to control the person. As a result, they develop control tactics that terrorize the victim and force the victim to submit to their will.

Common tactics for control include:

Intimidation and Threats

An abuser uses intimidation and threats to assert dominance over a victim. Using physical violence is often the pathway to using threats to control someone. Once the abuser establishes that they will physically harm the victim, threats of violence might be sufficient to control the person.


Isolating a victim from friends and family is a common method of control used by domestic violence offenders. Cutting off a person from the outside world means the person has no support system to fight the abuse. It also means they are less likely to tell someone about the abuse.

An abuser might take away the victim’s cell phone, computer, and other methods of communication. Then, they might move the victim to a new city where they do not know anyone. In some cases, the abuser might drive the victim everywhere and accompany them, so they are never alone with anyone but the abuser.


Gaslighting is a common control tactic and form of manipulation used by domestic violence abusers. They make the victim believe that they are losing touch with reality. As a result, the victim begins questioning everything they thought they could believe. 

Causing Harm to Property and Others

A domestic violence abuser may damage the victim’s property or other items when they are angry. As a result, the victim fears being harmed if they do not do what the abuser says. In addition, the abuser may threaten to harm another person, especially someone the victim loves. 

Defenses to Allegations of Domestic Violence in San Diego 

Being arrested on domestic violence charges may be scary and embarrassing. However, they are merely allegations. The state must prove its case to obtain a conviction.

However, you should not rely on your innocence as a defense. You need a solid defense strategy. Potential defenses to domestic violence charges include:

  • The allegations against you are false
  • The prosecution’s evidence is insufficient to prove the case
  • You were acting in self-defense or defense of another person
  • You lacked criminal intent to commit the offense
  • The evidence you submit proves that you are not guilty of the crime

Domestic violence charges in California are wobbler offenses. They can be charged as a felony or misdemeanor offense. In both cases, you could face significant jail time, substantial fines, probation, mandatory counseling, restraining orders, and other punishments for a conviction. 

Schedule a Free Consultation With Our San Diego Domestic Violence Lawyers

We are genuinely sorry that you are going through this situation. We want you to know that you deserve a robust legal defense. Contact our office today to schedule a confidential, free consultation with a trusted San Diego domestic violence attorney. 

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